I have been polyamorous since 1999, when the woman I was then dating introduced me to the word. I embraced the idea immediately, as I felt it was much more consistent with my way of being in the world than monogamy had been. I’d been monogamous during my marriage, and while I was faithful, I felt constrained in ways I wasn’t happy about, especially when I learned that I was the only faithful partner in my marriage!
I now have two wonderful partners, Matt and Katherine. They recently had a commitment ceremony to celebrate their marriage of 6 years and their commitment of 10 years, and I was a central part of their ceremony. A guest remarked as he was leaving “That was the most openly poly wedding I’ve ever been to, including my own.” I’ve been with them for 5 years, and we’re happier now than ever.
Personally, I’m a practicing emergency physician and health policy analyst. My connection with AtMP also dates from 1999, when a former board member and close friend told me he was on the board and felt they were a great organization and I ought to consider supporting them financially. He was right, and I’ve been a donor since 2000. I’ve been able to help AtMP with issues around hospital visitation, health care decision making, and other health issues as they relate to unmarried relationships.
Last year I was invited to be on the board, an invitation I was delighted to accept. I’m looking forward to our ongoing work around health care issues, as well as new research into the legal status of marriage as it relates to public health.
Tom Amoroso is a member of AtMP’s finance committee and leads a new working group on changing the organization’s name.